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I Like the Wine and not the Label

Gia Bagnoli-Brown MSW, LSW
Counselor, Insight Clinical Counseling and Wellness, LLC

“Um, I do drink red wine, but I also drink white wine. And I’ve been known to sample the occasional rosé. And a couple summers back, I tried a Merlot that used to be a Chardonnay, which got a bit complicated… I like the wine and not the label. Does that make sense?” — David Rose

If you haven’t watched Schitts Creek, you need to. Aside from the show being phenomenal, it took a stab at the evolving increase of LGBTQI+ relationships on screen. It followed the evolution of a pansexual character and did so with beauty and ease. Now for myself, I consider having been an ally before being an ally was a declaration to be made. Let’s talk about some statistics, and what you can do to become an ally as well.

The Trevor Project reports 45% of LGBTQI+ youth considered attempting suicide in the past year. They also stated that LGBTQI+ youth who felt high levels of social support from their family reported attempting suicide at less than half the rate of those who felt little to no social support. In reality, all teenagers are at risk, but LGBTQI+ are at a higher risk because their risks are more complex. They are not more prone to suicidal behaviors due to their sexuality, but because of the added stigma and mistreatment, as well as lack of support from family, friends, or peers.

Another unfortunate statistic reported by the Trevor Project is that of the LGBTQI+ youth who have desired mental health services in the past year, 60% have not been able to receive it. So, not only are these youth struggling with social standards, bullying, stigmatization, and lack of family support, they are doing it alone.

In my professional role, I have noticed an increase of youth, as young as 10 years old, identify as bisexual during initial assessment. This means in front of a person they just met, and a parent or guardian they are confidently identifying their sexual preferences honestly. I then pay close attention to how their supportive adult responds. With that being said, I find it important for people to understand there is a difference between being accepting, and being supportive.

The dictionary defines acceptance as:
1. The quality or state of being accepted or acceptable.
2. The act of accepting Something or someone

Support is defined as:
1. To promote the interests or cause of
2. To uphold as valid or right; advocate

To put it simply, acceptance is great, it just isn’t enough. Supporting looks like advocating for them, whether at school, at home, with family, or with friends. This means taking them to get clothes they feel comfortable in, cutting their hair how they like, and utilizing their name and gender pronoun preferences.

Ultimately, it costs nothing to be kind. The LGBTQI+ community is made up of your family, friends, peers, and colleagues whether you know it or not. Statistically speaking, you most likely love someone who identifies on the spectrum. Let that soak in.

Happy Pride month, keep being fabulous!

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